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Ziziphi iingcebiso onokubahamba ngezoshishino eziya eSweden?
- Xa usenza ishishini eSweden, khumbula ukuba yinkcubeko yabantu, apho umgangatho wobomi kunye nemicimbi yendalo yongqongqo.
- Baxhaphaza izandla xa befika baze bahambe. Yenzelwe ngokukhawuleza nangokuqinileyo, kunye nokumomotheka okanye ukuthetha ngokungahambisani nokuthetha ngokuqhelekileyo akuhambisani nayo - ingakumbi ukuba awuzange uhlangabezane ngaphambili.
- Indlela yokuShishini yaseSweden isesikweni ngokusemthethweni kunokuba i-informal, ngoko akukho gum chewing, slouching, okanye ukuncika kwizinto.
- Gcina iimvakalelo zakho ubuncinci, njengendlela epholile, ezolile, kunye neyona ndlela yokwenza izinto. Abantu baseSweden banokuthula, ngoko bathetha ngelizwi elincinciweyo, elincinciweyo.
- Abantu baseSweden ngabantu abanobukratshi, kodwa abakwazi ukuziqhayisa. Nangona behlonipha umntu onolwazi nolwazi, awufanele uphawule. Esikhundleni sokuba ubonise ngokulungiswa kakuhle, iinkcukacha ezijoliswe kuyo, kunye nokucwangciswa ngokucwangcisekileyo okubalulekileyo ukufumana amaSweden ukuba amkele ingcamango yangaphandle.
- Amaqiniso kunye namanani zibalulekile, kwaye kufuneka kucaciswe ngokucacileyo kwaye icaciswe. Abantu baseSweden bagxininisa umxholo wenkcazo, kungekhona umbala wayo okanye ubukeka obuhle.
- Imfundo yaseSweden ibasifundisa ukuba bacinge ngokucwangcisa kunye nokuhlalutya, ngoko bahlala bejonga kwimithetho yendalo kunye nemithetho yokulungisa iingxaki.
- Intlanganiso yokuqala yoshishino iya kuba yinto ephantsi, kunye nabakwaSweden bavavanya, inkampani yakho kunye nesiphakamiso sakho. Qinisekisa zonke iintlanganiso ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ungaze utshintshe ngokukhawuleza ixesha kunye nendawo.
- Abantu baseSweden bakholelwa ukukhawuleza, ngoko kubalulekile ukufika ngexesha okanye kunokuthi kuthathwe njengento yokungahloneli okanye ukungabi namdla. Zilandela ngokukhawuleza iziqalo zokuqala kunye neziphelo zeentlanganiso.
- Abantu baseSweden bafake imfashini, kwaye i-shishini iyanxiba iingubo ezifanelekileyo kunye nabesilisa abembethe iisuti kunye nezibophelelo, kunye nabafazi bembethe iisuti okanye iimpahla zokugqoka. Imibala encinci yinto ekhethekileyo kunemibala enemibala.
- Ukunyaniseka nokunyaniseka, kunokuba buhlobo, yiyona ndlela ikhethiweyo yezoshishino. Ukuncoma esidlangalaleni akuqhelekanga kwenziwe, ngaphandle kokuba kusebenza kwiqela lonke. Akukho nxalenye yodwa yokhuphiswano okanye ofuna ukuma.
- Abantu baseSweden bafika ngokuthe ngqo kumashishini ngeentetho ezincinane okanye ezingekho ncinane. Kwintetho, kubalulekile ukugcina uxhamliso lwamehlo kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
- Abantu baseSweden bakhululekile kakhulu kunye nekhefu elide kunye nokuthulisa kwingxoxo, ngoko kuya kuba yimpazamo ukuzama ukukhawuleza ukuzalisa iipasi.
- Ukuzihlaziya kweSweden kuyingqayizivele, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha akaqondwa ngumntu wonke. Awufanekanga ukuhlaziya okumele kusetyenziswe kwiintlanganiso ezinzulu okanye iingxoxo.
- Abantu baseSweden baya kuphepha ukuphikisana ngezinto ezibucayi, ngakumbi kwiindwendwe. Ukuba ingxoxo yolu hlobo iqala, i-Swede ingayimisa ngokukhawuleza.
5 Iingxoxo ezibalulekileyo zeengxoxo okanye iingcebiso zoGesture
- Ukuqhagamshelana kwamehlo kubaluleke kakhulu ukubonisa ukunyaniseka kwakho nokunyaniseka.
- Kunceda ukubonisa ulwazi lwezinto zeSweden, ingakumbi ezo zihlukanisa amaSweden avela kwiiColandina zaseFinland, eNorway naseDenmark.
- AmaSweden abathanda imvelo kunye nangaphandle, ngoko ncokola nantoni na enxulumene nobuhle bemvelo bukaSweden okanye imidlalo - njengehockey kunye nebhola.
- Abantu baseSweden banandipha ukuthetha ngefilosofi, ubugcisa, ukuhamba, iziganeko zangoku, kunye nezopolitiko ukuba akubalulekanga kwisakhiwo seSweden.
- Kukho ukuziqhenya okukhulu kwimimandla yaseSweden, ngoko kuyaxabiswa xa uyazi into ethile malunga nommandla othile owuvelayo.
5 Iingxoxo eziPhambili zeNtetho okanye iZenzo zokuThetha
- Ukubuza imibuzo yomntu, okanye ukuxoxa ngentsapho ngaphandle kokuba bayifake kwimeko ethile ebuhlotsheni bakho.
- Musa ukuzikhethela ngandlela-thile, kwaye ugweme ukuzincoma umntu odibana naye.
- Gwema nayiphi na indlela yokubonakalisa okanye ukuziqhayisa malunga nesimo, isimo, impumelelo okanye ingeniso. AbaseSweden baxhomekeka kakhulu ngale nto.
- Ungayisebenzisi ezininzi izinto xa uthetha, kuba abaseSweden bachasene nokwelula inyaniso nangayiphi na indlela.
- Abantu baseSweden abathandi abakhalazi, ngoko ke nangona izinto zibonakala ziphuculwa okanye ziqhutywe kwinkqubo, kungcono ukuba ungabonakali iimpawu zokungazezeli.
Yintoni ebalulekileyo ukwazi malunga nokuthatha isigqibo okanye inkqubo yokuxoxisana?
- Ukwenza izigqibo kungawela kumgangatho ophantsi okanye ophantsi olawulo oluphezulu eSweden, kwaye kukho ugxininiso ekusebenzisaneni kunye nokunciphisa.
- Imvumelwano iyaxabiseka, kwaye abaseSweden baya kuzama ukuphepha ukulwa ngenxa yokuba abafuni ukucaphukisa umntu.
- Ingxoxo eSweden ingathatha ixesha, kodwa xa kuthengiswa isivumelwano kwaye sisayinwe, unokuqiniseka ukuba iiSweden ziya kugcina ukuphela koxanduva lwabo
Naziphi na iingcebiso kubafazi?
Abasetyhini kunye namadoda baphathwa njengabalinganayo eSweden, ngoko balindela ukuba abacebisi babe ngabafana besini.
Nawuphi na umcebisi ngokuthinta?
- Abantu baseSweden bakhetha ukuma ngokuthe ngcembe kwintsebenziswano yabo kunamasiko athile, kwaye kunokuba bathembele kwiindlela ezingabonakaliyo zonxibelelwano, kukulungele ukugcina ulwimi lomzimba kunye nezandla zomzimba,
- Ngaphandle kwe-handshake, abaseSweden abanalo uqhagamshelwano oluninzi lwezinto eziphathekayo, ngoko gwema ukuhlaziya, ukumbamba okanye ukuthinta.