Kwabazali abaninzi, akukho nto enhle ngaphezu kwekhefu leentsapho ezivuyayo, kwaye akukho nto engathandekiyo kunomxinzelelo. Izithuba kunye nabantwana abancinci banokuthi baye bahlaselwa kubantwana abangabantwana, abancinci abancinci, kunye nabantwana abakhathazekile. Kodwa ukuhamba kunye nezingane zasekholeji kunye nabantu abadala abasenomdla. Njengabazali abadala, unganakho ukubeka i-ajenda ngendlela oye wenzile ngayo nakwindawo yokugqibela yohambo lwentsapho, kulula ukungaqondani kunye nokukhungatheka ukuphuhlisa.
Ininzi yentlungu kunye nokungathandekiyo kunokuphetshwa ngxoxo encinci ngaphambi kokuba usapho luqale. Nazi izinto ozozilungisa phambi kokuba uhambe ukuze uhlalise intsapho enhle.
Xoxa Ngaphambili Ngubani ohlawula oko
Iindleko zibiza kwaye i-extras ingongeza. Intsapho nganye inendlela yayo yohlahlo lwabiwo-mali kodwa ibeka phambili kusini na ojongene neendleko zokuhamba, ukulala kunye nokutya kuya kunceda ukunciphisa ukungaqondani. Ngaba wonke umntu uhlawula kwigumbi lakhe? Ngokomzekelo, ukuba intsha okanye abantu abaselula bayaya kwibharari ngaba kulindeleke ukuba bahlawule ithebhu yabo? Kuthiwani naziphi na izikhumbuzo zohambo? Ngubani ohlawula ithikithi kwisiganeko okanye ukutya kwisiganeko?
Thetha malunga nobusuku obusasa noKusasa kwasekuseni
Ngelixa leeholide, abantwana abadala kunye nabazali babo bangabonakala behlala kwimimandla yexesha. Isizukulwana esincinane sisoloko sihlala siphelile size sibheke isidlo sakusasa, emva kweeyure emva kokuba abazali babo bebenabo.
Nangona oko kusebenza kakuhle kwikhaya lentsapho, ngelixa lihamba lingaba ibali elifani kakhulu. Ukuba amanye amalungu entsapho avukile kwaye sele ekulungele ukuya phambili kwaye abanye balele, kuvela ingxabano. Abantu abadala abasebenza nzima nzima unyaka banokubona ixesha labo lekhefu njengethuba lokubuthana nokulala nokubuyela kwimisebenzi yabo.
Enye inkulumo engenanto ngaphambi kokuba iholide iqalise inokukunceda ukuphepha abazali befake njengoko bekulindele ukuba abantwana babo bavuke baze baqale imini.
Xoxa malunga nento oya kuyenza kunye kunye
Xa abantwana bebancinci, bafuna ukuba kunye nani yonke imzuzu yeholide yeholide. Lezo ntsuku zingapheli kodwa kubalulekile ukuba iintsapho zibe nesivumelwane malunga nokuba baya kwenza ntoni kunye kunye naxa ziya kuhamba iindlela zabo ezihlukeneyo. Ngaba nonke nithanda ukubona i-sightsee? Ngaba amanye amalungu entsapho aphuka ukutya kwasekuseni? Ingaba yonke imini kakhulu ixesha kunye kunye kwaye kufuneka igcinwe? Ngaba le iveki enye ngonyaka uya kuba kunye kwaye unethemba lokuchitha ubuninzi balo ngokubanzi? Ingaba intsapho yakho isicwangciso sokutya kunye kunye nokwenza yonke imisebenzi kunye?
Cwangcisa uhambo oluhamba kunye
Ingqiqo yentsapho malunga nokuya kuyo yindlela enkulu yokufumana ukuthenga ngaphakathi kwabo bonke abahambahambayo. Ngenye indlela, oko abazali bacinga ukuba "bayonwabile" kubantwana babo abadala abadala, kwaye bacwangcise ngokubambisana, bangawa phantsi kwaye baba luhambo olubi kwaye lukhuni. Iintsuku zokubiza izibhengezo ziphelile kwaye ngakumbi ukuba abantwana abakhulileyo babandakanyeka ekucwangciseni ixesha lakho kunye, kuvuyisa ixesha elo.