Zibuza ukuba wenza into efanelekileyo, xa kuziwa kwi-label yakho yomtshato ? U-Elise Mac Adam ngumlobi weNto entsha: I-Wedding Etiquette yoLawulo lwabantu abahlukileyo, abaNkokeli beNkokeli kunye nabo bonke abantu abaphakathi . Ukuthatha imithwalo yamanqaku enamhlanje kuyakunceda abatshatanga kunye neendawo zokulungiselela usuku olukhulu.
"Miss Wedding Manners" emisiwe ukunika ulwazi malunga nendlela yokuphatha iimeko ezinobungakanani bomtshato ngomtshato.
Ngaba ndiyakumema abantu kwi-ashado yam bridal ukuba andinabamemezeli kumtshato wam oya kuyo?
Awufanele ukumema nabani na kwi-shower yakho engayi kuba kuluhlu lwabahlobo bakho bomtshato. (Okungekho kulo mgaqo-nkqubo kubaluleke kakhulu, umzekelo, ii-ofisi zomnxeba zomnxeba apho abasebenzi abambisene nabo bengayi kumenywa emtshatweni.) Isizathu salo kukuba kuba kubanzi ukuba iindwendwe zizisa izipho, zibukeka memela abantu kwiqela elincinci kodwa bangabanqumli ukusikwa kwesi siganeko. Unokukwazi ukulungelelanisa ngakumbi xa une-post-elopement okanye i-post-wedding reception back to home where you invite all of these shower guests, kodwa kufuneka ukwazi ukuba uya kuba nombhiyozo emva kwendlu. uthumela iimemo zokuhambisa amanzi.
Ndifuna umtshato wam ube ngumntu omdala kuphela. Ndingaqiniseka njani ukuba abantu abazenzi abantwana babo?
Impendulo emfutshane kukuba: musa ukumema abantwana.
Musa ukubeka amagama abo kwisimemo okanye ubhale "kunye nosapho" kwimvulophu. Kufuneka ulungiselele iindwendwe eziza kuba nezingane zokuthumela iimpazamo zabo. Kukho nzima ukuba abantu bahambe ngaphandle koonyana babo, okanye bathemba ukunakekelwa kwabantwana abangenakunyulwa (ukuba bathabatha abantwana kwihambo kunye nabo kodwa baceba ukuwashiya ehotele yomtshato kunye nokwamkela).
Qonda ukuba njengoko unqwenele ukuba ungafuni ukuba nabantwana emtshatweni wakho, kunokufuna ukugqiba ukuba abanako ukuhamba, kwaye akufuneki kubekho imizwa enzima malunga nayo.
Ngaba singabhalisa izipho ukuba sinomtshato oya kuyo?
Ingaba ulolonga okanye unomtshato oya kuyo, unako ukuhlala ubhalisa izipho. Oko akufanele ukwenze nakweyiphi imeko ifuna izipho, oku kuthetha ukuba akufanele uprinte ulwazi lwakho lokubhalisa kwiimemo zomtshato wakho. Kwimeko yokubhaliweyo, abantu banakho okanye abanakuvakalelwa ukuba banikele izipho zomtshato, ngoko awukwazi ukuzithembela ekufumaneni ngendlela onokuyenza ngayo ukuba unomtshato opheleleyo.
Ngubani ohlawula iziganeko ezijikeleze umtshato wangempela kunye nokwamkela kwimibhangano?
Izibhengezo akufanele zihlawule ngokwabo nasiphi na isiganeko esijikeleze umtshato. Ngoko ke, ngelixa bajongene neendleko zabo zokuhamba kunye neendawo zokuhlala, akufanele bahlawule ukutya kwabo kwimini yokufumana umtshato okanye ukuhlaziya isidlo sakusihlwa, ukuba kukho enye. Nayiphi na isiganeko esimenywayo kufuneka sinyamekele. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba iindwendwe zinikezelwa uluhlu lwemisebenzi yasemakhaya abangayidla phakathi kweziganeko ezicwangcisiweyo, zithatha ezo zindleko ngokwabo.
Isikhokelo esisisiseko kufuneka sibe: ukuba bayamenywa ukuba benze into, akufanele bahlawule.
Ndingenawo umtshato wendawo kunye nokumkela kufuphi neveki ezimbalwa emva koko. Ngaba ndiyamema wonke umntu kuzo zombini iziganeko?
Isihluthulelo sokugcina ukulahlekelwa yingqondo yakho kukumema abantu kuphela kwisiganeko ofuna ukuba nabo. Ukukhupha iimemo ezihlukeneyo zomtshato wendawo kunye nokwamkelwa kwaye zize zifumane uluhlu lweendwendwe ezihlukeneyo kwimicimbi yomibini. Nangona kukho ininzi ekhoyo kulezo ziluhlu, kufuneka uhlale uzihlule. Oku kuya kugcina yonke into icacile kwaye iququzelelwe kuwe kwaye iya kunceda ukugcina iindleko phantsi ngenxa yokuba akukho nzekayo oza kuphazamisa ngokukhululekayo ukuba uphumelele umtshato wakho apho uya kumema abantu abaninzi njengokuba unokuhlala kwindawo yokuqala indawo.
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